Refresh and try again. In Me and My Fear (out now in the UK, US & Canada), a young immigrant girl starts school in her new country and has to face the challenges of making friends, learning a language, and overcoming her companion Fear, who perches on her shoulder every day—trying to keep her safe. Just a moment while we sign you in to your Goodreads account. “ Me and My Fear is a lovely reminder that we all have our fear with us, especially in new situations, which all of us have to face at some point. This book focuses on a girl who moved to a new country, but it fits for any child who has moved to a new school. Sanna does this by personifying the anxiety/fear. I loved the depiction of the girl's fear and how it increased in size as her fear increased. “Me and My Fear is a lovely reminder that we all have our fear with us, especially in new situations, which all of us have to face at some point. She graduated with honors in 2015 the Lucer. Update: Since I first read this book several months ago, I've read a few other picture books addressing fear and anxiety. The publisher, Flying Eye Books, generously provided me with a copy of this book to read. It serves as a wonderful visual representation of the anxiety an immigrant child might be experiencing and hopefully help them recognize that it doesn't have to rule the day. Fear gets smaller when a classmate reaches out to her and they become friends. Fear of pushing my partner away. She said, multiple times, that she cares about me and my opinion and doesn't want to go on that without me … I really loved the illustrations in Francesca Sanna's The Journey (which I included in my list of picture books featuring refugees). Thanks to the COVID-19 pandemic, 2020 will be long remembered as a Dumpster fire of a year. A heart-warming and relevant new tale from Francesca Sanna, the bestselling author and illustrator of The Journey, about sharing and overcoming one’s fears in a new and unfamiliar home. Often anxious and fearful Francesca Sanna writes a pretty wise and helpful book for kids about fears, which she suggests can be useful, but not useful to get too big. You can buy a signed copy of Me and My Fear in my shop, or at your favorite local independent bookshop! Reminds me of What Do You Do with an Idea? Heights are one of my biggest fears that I have tried numerous of times to get over. Created by TeachingBooks. How can she hope to make friends if she doesn't understand anyone? There’s so much that s/he has to overcome to succeed … Fear grows when the child moves to a new country and grows even larger when she has to start school. You know what I did the last time fear struck me? I find her style incredibly perceptive and works beautifully with the story she is trying to convey." It is a beautifully illustrated book about being the new child in school and the community, and overcoming your fears. --Julie Danielson, Seven Impossible Things Before Breakfast "Me and My Fear is a lovely reminder that we all have our fear with us, especially in new situations, which all of us have to face at some point. This book focuses on a girl who moved to a new country, but it fits for any child who has moved to a new school. I loved the depiction of the girl's fear and how it increased in size as her fear increased. This is a fantastic, beautifully illustrated book about being the new kid and overcoming your fears. Let us know what’s wrong with this preview of, Published This book helps young readers understand what it might be like for a friend who is new to their school or town, and shows the importance of sharing our fears in order to connect with one another. by Flying Eye Books. We’d love your help. Her art style is distinctly employing a technique that feels collage-like, vibrant and detailed. It's for every kid who had to move to a new place and feels they don't belong and are fearful of fitting in and learning about the new place. "Fear" is draw. So lovely. Flying Eye Books. Following on from The Journey and in answer to many questions from children she met, Sanna tells the story of one of the siblings after they had moved to a new country. Another one of Sanna's books that I have absolutely fallen in love with. In this sweet book with awesome illustrations, a child's fear is a visible tangible thing. The rating, ideas and opinions are my own. in the way that it presents an abstract idea but in such a very understandable way. Me and My Fear is the companion to The Journey, Sanna's powerful picture book story of a family of refugees, led by a widowed mother, and their flight from a war torn country. “ Me and My Fear is a lovely reminder that we all have our fear with us, especially in new situations, which all of us have to face at some point. Fear keeps her safe...but it also gets in the way and prevents her from doing things she wants to do. Story Map Multi-Leveled Lesson. "Me and My Fear is a lovely reminder that we all have our fear with us, especially in new situations, which all of us have to face at some point. Recommended by a fellow Booktuber :). Me and My Fear As little ones grow they become increasingly emotionally aware, but emotions are big concepts. Get this from a library! and as the friendship grows and our heroine begins to feel more comfortable in her new school fear shrinks away and eventually everyone, and their fear, begin to happily play together. This time readers meet a girl who has just immigrated to a new country and is starting school. It's important to teach them that their mental health doesn't define them, and Sanna does this so beautifully. Me and My Fear, she beautifully portrays the fears and anxieties of childhood and how one can face them. Another one of Sanna's books that I have absolutely fallen in love with. Beautiful illustrations and a satisfying narrative arc. It really makes this story come to life. Remember, God is always there. Francesca Sanna's art is adorable. If you’re a teacher or parent looking to talk about those big fearful feelings and how to deal with them, Flying Eye Books is giving out these free guides for ME & MY FEAR. Create Lesson Share. Though it can sometimes keep her safe, now Fear stops her from making new friends atRead More The immigrant girl comes to a new country, new school, and is afraid. When a young girl has to travel to a new country and start at a new school, her Fear tells her to be alone and afraid. This book focuses on a girl who moved to a new country, but it fits for those kids who would move due to their parent's job like military kids. Me & My Fear is a wonderful book – a follow-up to Sanna’s Journey (2016). However, this new book can be read on its own and appreciated, whether you've read The Journey or not. Fear can keep you safe OR RUIN YOUR LIFE. Alongside the amazing writing, are the beautiful illustrations which are packed with colour and vibrancy. the detail is really nice i like what the fear represents and the drawing so good! How can she hope to make friends if she doesn't understand anyone? It's important to teach them that their mental health doesn't defi. DEAR DEIDRE: I WAS about to have sex with my girlfriend when she grabbed her phone and turned the camera on to take explicit pics of me. This is brilliant! "Me and My Fear is a lovely reminder that we all have our fear with us, especially in new situations, which all of us have to face at some point. I can't help but love picture books that make themes such as mental health and anxiety so accessible to younger children. [Francesca Sanna] -- When a young girl has to move countries and start at a new school, her fear tells her to be alone and afraid. As a military brat who spent my childhood going around the world from one place to another, this story resonated with me. A book which addresses a challenging topic in a very comforting and empathetic way. How can she hope to make friends if she doesn’t understand their language? This book perfectly followed the book on Mr. Rogers I just finished. What more can you ask for in a picture book? This is a book that would be beneficial to a. Her new friend also has a secret fear (don't all children have them?) Obviously the message of being kind, welcoming and playing together is geared to anyone, but even though my grandson could tell me the message that everyone is afraid of something, he is too young to internalize that yet. Tying in her own anxieties and fears when integrating into a new culture, Sanna shares with us the young girl's beginning days at her new school and the acclimatisation of herself and those around her to this new start. Surely no one else feels the same way. When she moves to a new school in a different country, Fear grows bigger and bigger to protect and keep the girl safe. How can she hope to make friends if she doesn't understand anyone? Me and My Fear. Fear ; Children's Books/Ages 4-8 Fiction ; Children's stories + Show More - Show Fewer Details Our Original Resources 2. Such a great book to follow Sana’a previous book ‘The Journey’, it is really effective in personifying fear and displaying it as a being that wants to stop you in your tracks doing what you want. It is a beautifully illustrated book about being the new child in school and the community, and overcoming your fears. 1/25/2019 By Sanna, Francesca. I'll definitely be recommending this book to families at the library when they are looking for empowering books for kids. When I saw this book, it attracted me right away. It serves as a wonderful visual representation of the anxiety an immigrant child might be experiencing and hopefully help them recognize that it … "Fear" is drawn in such a great way, and the use of various sizes of fear is illustrated perfectly. Beautiful book that shows the embodiment of fear and how it grows in a young girl's life as she transitions to a new country. Either way, though, it's a giant, puffy marshmallow man. The ending is wonderful where she realizes that the other children all have different fears and they begin to play together. How cute! It's for every kid who had to move to a new place and feels they don't belong and are fearful of fitting in and learning about the new place. Goodreads helps you keep track of books you want to read. Me and My Fear is a heartfelt story exploring fear and anxiety. In this sweet book with awesome illustrations, a child's fear is a visible tangible thing. And then the fear kicks in. Beautiful illustrations in a small tale about fear and how it keep us from doing and living. Me And My Fear (Book) : Sanna, Francesca : When a young girl has to move countries and start at a new school, her fear tells her to be alone and afraid. I'm not sure if this was done purposely to create a stark contrast between the dark fear, and the colourful drawings. I loved this too much that I had to own a copy. How can she hope to make friends if she doesn't understand anyone? Be the first to ask a question about Me And My Fear. No children would have been involved, but I think it's also amazing for kids -- both for befriending their fears and building their empathy for others (especially immigrants). What a beautiful story about the fear we all carry along with us. This is a lovely story about a child who has fear all the time. Surely no one else feels the same way. Me and My Fear. The book follows a girl who has moved to a new place and due to her 'secret' - fear - she finds it difficult to make friends or enjoy herself in the new place, this is until she realizes that everyone has fears of their own. Her new friend also has a secret fear (don't all children have them?) © 2021 Francesca Sanna First published in English by Flying Eye Books, Me and My Fear has been translated into 15  languages. Having a grandchild with severe anxiety, I though this book would be a good one. So she decided to come celebrate the New Year with me and my mother in Minnesota once again. This is such an amazing writing tool, as it allows the reader to separate the anxiety from the person, which is such an important thing for younger children suffering from anxiety to know. Description ; Additional information ; Reviews (0) A heart-warming and relevant new tale from Francesca Sanna, the bestselling author and illustrator of The Journey, about sharing and overcoming one’s fears in a new and unfamiliar home. Flying Eye, $17.95 (40p) ISBN 978-1-911171-53-9. I'm a super anxious person and I wish a book like this had been in my life when I was a child! Great illustrations. Fear gets smaller when a classmate reaches out to her and they become friends. Wonderful encouragement to anyone with fears that hinder them. But not everything is as bad as it seems when she builds a friendship with a boy in her class over a shared interest of art. After a girl moves to a new country and new school, her anxiety and fear grow, isolating and paralyzing her until she discovers a friend who has fears of his own. This would be a good book to keep on my bookshelf to read him again when he is older and more able to utilize and understand the anxiety message. This book focuses on a girl who moved to a new country, but it fits for those kids who would move due to their parent's job like military kids. Beautiful writing, great message that I think can be applicable to anyone, and impeccable art - it's so lovely and so warm. So beautiful illustrated. It serves as a wonderful visual representation of the anxiety an immigrant child might be experiencing and hopefully help them recognize that it … It serves as a wonderful visual representation of the anxiety an immigrant child might be experiencing and hopefully help them recognize that it … (UK) We've found this pivotal in explaining the notion of fear to our youngest daughter. Who knew so many kids feel the same way? Me and My Fear (Book) : Sanna, Francesca : When a young girl has to move countries and start at a new school, her fear tells her to be alone and afraid. The physical manifestation of the girl’s anxiety and worries as this little (or not-so-little) creature represents how debilitating fears can become in a way that really hits home and that many readers will be able to relate to. Overall, Sanna has carried on 'her journey' with the beautiful birds landing on the pages of this book, and I can't wait to read so much more of her work. The story mainly centers around a child having just moved to another country, but it also shows that everyone is afraid of something and it is possible to overcome one's fear. Francesca Sanna is an Italian illustrator and graphic designer based in Switzerland. I read this standing up in my local bookstore. When I saw this book, it attracted me right away. Of course, she is not alone in having fears! OTHER BOOKS. A young immigrant girl finds that she is living with fear everywhere she goes - sometimes it's big, sometimes it's small, but it's almost always interfering with her life. A young girl has a friend called Fear, who she takes with her on all of her new experiences and adventures. You can buy a signed copy of Me and My Fear in my shop, or at your favorite local independent bookshop! Surely no one else feels the same way... To see what your friends thought of this book. So glad to see it reviewed here – it’s important for people to realize that a refugee’s journey doesn’t end when s/he leaves a conflict zone. Start by marking “Me And My Fear” as Want to Read: Error rating book. Me and My Fear is the much anticipated companion book to Francesca Sanna's 2016 debut The Journey. and as the friendship grows and our heroine begins to fee. Can help with self confidence and helping children to overcome their fears. I can't help but love picture books that make themes such as mental health and anxiety so accessible to younger children. So when I saw she had a sequel out, I jumped at the chance to read it. It serves as a wonderful visual representation of the anxiety an immigrant child might be experiencing and hopefully help them recognize that it … I pray it every time I am sick or hurt: Please God, heal me. Gorgeous illustrations and an uplifting lesson about fear and anxiety. Please do not reproduce without express written consent, First published in English by Flying Eye Books, Me and My Fear has been translated into 15. Beautiful art. A great book to help children with starting a new school and becoming anxious. In a world where medical information is available 24/7, an Internet search on a cough eventually leads me to think I have terminal pulmonary disease. We’ve … When a young girl has to travel to a new country and start at a new school, her Fear tells her to be alone and afraid. Sweet story, great pictures, even some humor. First published in English by Flying Eye Books, Me and My Fear has been translated into 15 languages. When a young girl has to move countries and start at a new school, her fear tells her to be alone and afraid. When she starts a new school, she discovers something unexpected: every one of her classmates also has a fear, and they come in all shapes and sizes. I love that it doesn't suggest you should eliminate fear altogether, only that it's important not to let it grow too big. I love the end where the character realizes that everyone has a fear. Submit Qualitative Text Complexity Rubric. “I sought the Lord, and he answered me and delivered me from all my … Although the illustrations in this one aren't my favourite, I think it has the best message I've seen about managing fear, so much so that I'm bumping this up an extra star. My only confusion with this book is what age level will understand the message. Illustrated by the author. He was very focused on children and the fears they face. ... She cares a lot about me and my insecurities (as I am also seeing a therapist for my trust and lack of self esteem issues), and it is absolutely not an ultimatum. A beautiful little book about differences, having anxiety and making friends. This book speaks perfectly to children dealing with fear. Fear grows when the child moves to a new country and grows even larger when she has to start school. A lovely read. A girl is walking around with fear, and it grows. Welcome back. We follow the story of a young girl who has a tiny companion, Fear. September 11th 2018 I love that the author gives a physical image to fear. Having a grandchild with severe anxiety, I though this book would be a good one. She graduated with honors in 2015 the Lucerne School of Art and Design, with a Master of Design with focus on Illustration. What if I don’t get better? Really great for developing social-emotional intelligence and understanding of anxiety/fear. It serves as a wonderful visual representation of the anxiety an immigrant child might be experiencing and hopefully help them recognize that it … Created by TeachingBooks. After she finished her studies in Cagliari, the main city of her beloved Mediterranean island (Sardinia) she said goodbye to her family and her cat (Berta) and moved to Germany before and Switzerland after, in order to follow her dream and be able to work as illustrator. the personification of fear and how everyone has it. It encourages children to fight their fears and overcome it. Sanna does this by personifying the anxiety/fear. Francesca Sanna. After she finished her studies in Cagliari, the main city of her beloved Mediterranean island (Sardinia) she said goodbye to her family and her cat (Berta) and moved to Germany before and Switzerland after, in order to follow her dream and be able to work as illustrator. Using an allegorical device by anthropomorphizing fear as a co-habitive entity, Me And My Fear explores the very human emotion of our natural tendency to feel trepidation when confronted with the unknown. This is such an amazing writing tool, as it allows the reader to separate the anxiety from the person, which is such an important thing for younger children suffering from anxiety to know. This is a book that would be beneficial to any child with the fear of fitting in to a new group or place. Nearly bought one for me and a friend. Francesca Sanna is an Italian illustrator and graphic designer based in Switzerland. My love affair with Francesca Sanna, her books and her illustrations, continues with Me and my Fear.Two years ago, Sanna published the outstanding book, The Journey, about refugees beginning the journey to safety.This new book, also beautifully illustrated, finds our little girl, now an immigrant, facing her fears as she reaches a new home, a new language, a new school, and no friends. Beautifully written story with lovely illustrations to accompany it. Until she meets a new friend. “Sanna provides an empathetic exploration of the adjustment to a new land that all migrants experience.” – New York Times Book Review. The more you read God’s Word, the more you will trust God; the more you trust God, the less you will fear; and the less you fear, the more you will love. ME & MY FEAR Activity Guide Starting back at school can be a scary thing, no matter your age. Me And My Fear is a really insightful little book. 40 pp | 23 × 26 cm| Hardback | 3 – 8 years. The illustration has a fear in the form of a creature whose size is manageable. This glorious story book is an essential for any little one. Me and my fear. Fear is her constant companion, manifesting itself in the form of a small white humanesque blob. This is a fantastic, beautifully illustrated book about being the new kid and overcoming your fears. I love the way the end shows that everyone has a fear and I hope this book is a comfort to children like the main character and an inspiration to other readers to welcome in and comfort anyone new to an unfamiliar place. Fear keeps us safe when we feel it in healthy amounts but this story explores how fear can be a bad feeling when it takes control and isolates you. Although the writer admits to struggling with anxiety, it's not just a book for kids with anxiety. Fear is a secret “tiny friend” first portrayed in a positive light as a factor that has “kept me safe.” But being in a new place is overwhelming, and her fear has grown exponentially, both in size and in stubbornness, preventing the narrator from exploring her new world. Francesca Sanna, Me and My Fear, Flying Eye Books, September 2018, 40 pp., RRP $27.99 (hbk), ISBN 9781911171539 A schoolgirl moves to a new country with her parents, and soon finds her secret little friend—Fear— begins to grow and grow. I think, and my mind romps wildly off into the land of worst-case scenarios. Francesca Sanna has done a delightful job of capturing how easy it is to let fear take over and rule one's life. So beautifully articulated. The author shares in her author’s notes how she is a very anxious person which is where the motivation to write this story came from. 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